This will come as no big surprise to most people who know me but the one thing I can’t say “no” to is helping someone who needs help. It really doesn’t matter what kind of help is needed. If it’s something that I feel I can do or at least help with, it takes all my effort to say “no” to someone.
This has gotten me into many a predicament over the years and has resulted in my being overbooked in multiple areas. Early in my career it meant that I was often helping other people or coming up with ideas to better help other people after work hours had ended.
When I first became a mom this tendency got me involved in various activities involving other single moms. Not because I thought I was doing such a great job myself, but just because it seemed that someone needed to bring single moms together so they could help one another to cope.
Later in my career it meant I worked long hours often without being paid just to make sure that everyone had what they needed when they needed it. And in that phase of my career it resulted in burn out and a need to change industries for a job that was strictly 9-5 pm for a while.
Now later in life, I still have that tendency to say yes when someone asks for my help but I try to restrict it to family and close friends. I have found that recently I’ve been saying yes to too many clients in the same week and it results in my schedule being overloaded so I’m working on being able to say “I can schedule that for next week” instead of “sure I can do it by tomorrow”.
Now if I can just figure out how to say “no” more often to my 2 1/2-year-old when she gives me her little sad face, I’ll be good to go.