Say What You Mean and Do What You Say

Finding Self, parenting, postaday2011, Relationships

Trust is one of those things that takes a very long time to build but can be wiped out in an instant.   In some relationships, trust is eroded gradually. Other times, a major act of betrayal or dishonesty can virtually destroy trust overnight and cause often irreparable damage.

Trust is important in every relationship we are involved in, including personal relationships with family, friends, children or spouses, as well as professional relationships with clients, professors, colleagues, partners and employers.

One way to strengthen and rebuild trust in any relationship is to practice being consistent and honest.  Think carefully before you promise something so that you can say what you mean and then do what you say.  This practice is a good one to implement for both personal and business relationships.  Little things can often build trust, for instance if you say you’ll take the garbage out in the morning, make sure you do it.  If you tell your child you will be there for their birthday, make sure you’re there.  Consistency and honesty is especially important for parents because a child’s ability to trust is developed and shaped by how trustworthy they view the adults early on in their life.

Trust plays an important role in work teams also because if you say you’ll be at a meeting, your employer counts on you to be there.  When you tell co-workers or group members you’ll finish a portion of a project, make sure it gets done. If you realize you can’t have it don’t, at least give them a heads up as early as possible.

When it comes to affiliate marketing, remember your reputation is on the line every time you swear by a product, an app, or a software program. Your client, customer, or reader trusts you to help them make an informed decision. If you recommend bad products too often, you’ll quickly lose trust which can mean lost dollars for your business or blog.

Big things like infidelity, lying, dishonesty, or theft can destroy trust virtually overnight. Most of us realize this. But what many people don’t realize is that it’s often the little things we do everyday that can quietly eat away at the trust in a relationship. This sneaky erosion of trust can go unnoticed until there is nothing left and it’s sometimes too late to repair the damage.

Be mindful of how trustful you are for the people who are important in your life.  Are you giving them reasons to trust you more?  Or less?  Make sure your daily behaviors are in line with your promises. Nobody gets it right every time but if you continue to practice consistency and honesty, you’ll develop more trust filled relationships and reap the rewards.


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