An Appeal from One Woman to Another-Be the Voice of Reason!

civil rights, parenting, politics

As a woman, a mother, stepmom, and a grandmother I would like to appeal to all women everywhere. It’s time that each of us step up as the voice of reason within our own families and circle of friends. Our husbands, boyfriends, brothers, nephews, our sons and stepsons, grandsons, and great grandsons are killing and are being killed in alarming numbers.

There is fault on all sides and I’m not going to debate that here.

I’m appealing to each and every woman in America, and all over the world to step forward and be the change I know that each of you want to see in our world.

There is no longer a reason to fear the war overseas for the war has already begun and it’s right in our own neighborhoods. If you want to help ensure that your loved ones regardless of their skin color, sexual orientation, or political affiliation come home safely, there is one thing you can do that will make a difference if we ALL STAND TOGETHER.

Talk to your family! Sit down with your family, those people who are dear to you, the people you love so completely, the children and friends that you would cry for if they were to be caught up and killed in this war that has begun in our country.

Talk to them about the importance of forgiveness, love, and peace. Talk to them about why it’s so important to you that they choose to turn the other cheek when situations arise in this world that give rise to anger and hatred. This is not to say there are not people in this world who already advocate peace because of course there are. But as women we know that many of us, many of our family and friends are quick to anger, quick to step up to defend and protect, quick to spread hate and gossip rather than “talk”.

It is way past TIME my human sisters. The turning point is here for our country. The point where we will either continue to spread hatred and condone killing based on fear and anger or we will say enough is enough.

We as women must stand together as wives, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, nieces, sisters. We must stand together and encourage, nay we must plead on hands and knees if need be, for our families, and especially our men and sons to stand with us AGAINST all of the violence and hatred that is threatening to consume this world.

We cannot begin to make change in our neighborhoods or the world until we make changes in our own families.

We as women have stood united in the past and won on many fronts. I beg of you my human sisters, be the peacemakers and the voice of reason within your own family and friends. If we stand united in just this ONE TASK, We can reach everyone and turn the tide to save the lives of our loved ones.

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Mark Zuckerberg, I’m happy for you. I’m sad for our nation’s families.

parenting, Uncategorized

I think it’s great Facebook is so generous to its employees, I really do. But this hits a nerve for me and I’m sure for many others.

For most Americans who live in the real world and yes, that means they live paycheck to paycheck, maternity leave is NOT something pleasant or a time of joy. It means a missed paycheck, maybe more than one. It means lean times all the way around as you figure out how to pay bills and rent and finance things a new baby needs or your recovering body needs, on even LESS income than you had before.

I’ve raised four children alone. There was no “PAID” time off available for any of them. In some cases I wasn’t even sure I would still have a job when my body recovered and I returned. I worked up until the day I went into labor with all of them, except my 4th because extreme stress took it’s toll and landed me in the hospital and then on doctor ordered bed rest 3 weeks before she arrived.

I can’t even tell you the financial burden that incurred–because again–no PAID time off. With all but my first child (I was 18), I was back to work in 2 weeks or less because I couldn’t “afford” to stay home. Not to mention the pain and guilt involved with having to leave your newborn all day, five days a week, in the care of someone other than you. And the added guilt of knowing they will basically be raised in daycare because if you don’t go to work all day, every day, then there is no money for anything let alone all those things that as a mother you want your child to have and experience. You come to dread basketball signup sheets, fundraiser packets, picture day, field trips, all of it because it just means MORE money that you have to figure out how to come up with from somewhere, someway, somehow. And most can’t count on child support to help at all because unless they were impregnated by someone in the 1%, it’s virtually impossible to receive it on a regular basis, without the help of an attorney, which you can’t afford. If you do get receive it, it’s a drop in the bucket compared to the expense of raising children and comes very sporadically or coupled with an ex who is angry about giving you money and so thinks they can complain about how much they pay to everyone they know and/or question you about where “their child support” goes.

So I think it’s great Mr. Zuckerberg and his wife have the luxury to stay home with their newborn. Their child is extremely lucky. I think it’s great that they have such a great plan available for their employees because those children will benefit greatly.

I think it’s just extremely sad that we allow so many other companies to get away without providing such a needed benefit….we know it makes better families, we know it makes better employees, we know that leads to happier communities and yet—I don’t see any boycotts of companies that don’t give their employees PAID maternity or paternity leave.

We have more families than ever breaking apart early in a child’s life. We have fathers killing their children and/or the mothers. We have mothers killing children. We have children killing each other and children killing themselves.

And yet we just shake our heads, post how sorry we are or how tragic it is.

Or worse, we take the easy way out, and we blame the parents when issues in families become overwhelming. When the continuous rat race becomes unbearable. When parents and their attention deprived children just suddenly snap and make news headlines. That’s when we care but only until the next one comes along.

So WHEN are we as a society and a nation going to insist that employers recognize the importance and value of spending quality time with our families? I think we’ve failed as a country hugely in this regard.

I think I’ll be doing some research about companies without such liberal PAID parental leave policies.

When I have the list, I’ll pass it along. You can decide for yourself whether to stand aside or stand up for families!

In a post to his millions of followers, Mark Zuckerberg announces his plan to take two months of paternal leave after his baby is born.
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